You git your 'pinions where you git your cornpone. Any dissent with this will get you fired. Those who wish to work with people you disagree with like this must learn stoicism and forbearance with regard to vocalizing your feelings. That said, it is understandable that a group of people (techies) who experienced mostly ostracism in their lives growing up might be upset when told they're privileged oppressors.

But what about muh free speech?

Never existed. Never will. The law of the jungle is the only law, ever. Let none tell you otherwise and you will understand the Riddle of Steel.

BONUS: Slate Star's take. Relevant excerpt:

This is the world we’ve built. Where making people live in fear is a feature, not a bug.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Nobody has any real policy disagreements. Everyone can just agree that men and women are equal, that they both have the same rights, that nobody should face harassment or discrimination. We can relax the Permanent State Of Emergency around too few women in tech, and admit that women have the right to go into whatever field they want, and that if they want to go off and be 80% of veterinarians and 74% of forensic scientists, those careers seem good too. We can appreciate the contributions of existing women in tech, make sure the door is open for any new ones who want to join, and start treating each other as human beings again. Your co-worker could just be your co-worker, not a potential Nazi to be assaulted or a potential Stalinist who’s going to rat on you. Your project manager could just be your project manager, not the person tasked with monitoring you for signs of thoughtcrime. Your female co-worker could just be your female co-worker, not a Badass Grrl Coder Who Overcomes Adversity. Your male co-worker could just be your male co-worker, not a Tool Of The Patriarchy Who Denies His Complicity In Oppression. I promise there are industries like this. Medicine is like this! Loads of things are like this! Lots of tech companies are even still like this! This could be you.

In summary, read the book We for how the Gramiscian kafkatrapping future turns out.